Total Self Confidence Is A Feeling That Can Be Yours
Self-confidence is defined as the power to have faith in oneself and one's gifts.
This quality is crucial to an individual's achievements during one's lifetime.
This ability encourages people to know that they are worthwhile and that they can be successful in their actions.
Even those who do not possess this characteristic can start to increase their self confidence.
Without this quality, the majority of persons find themselves powerless to realize life dreams. They may be unsuccessful in interpersonal interactions, academic endeavors, and work settings. They frequently acquire a social phobia, and become awkward in social settings. People who do not possess self-confidence sometimes hesitate to work to aspire or labor toward goal achievement; these people firmly believe that they are certain to disappoint. They become sure that they are not as good or as capable as other individuals around them. They typically do fall short because they do not believe in themselves.
In contrast, the person who is able to gain confidence will be able to correct this downward spiral and be able to find healing from this social phobia. Such a person learns that increasing self confidence yields remarkable improvements in relationships and academic achievements. On occasion, a job promotion might even result from steps toward boosting self-confidence.
Individuals may have failed to acquire self-confidence for a number of reasons. Some had domineering parents, or been teased often during their school years. Many struggled educationally or socially. Others just did not have success at making friends or encounter the reassuring encouragement of classmates, parents, or teachers. Many of these people fight against a self-image of inferiority and uselessness.
Often, persons who were unable to boost self confidence during childhood struggle with building self confidence throughout adulthood. They have been unable to learn how to achieve this, and usually learn only if they look for the assistance and support of peers or professional counselors. Many people are ashamed to admit that they are hindered by such difficulties, and simply continue to strive throughout their lives.
Many strategies can be used to assist people to build self confidence. Quite a few types of counseling strategies, such as behavioral therapy or group treatments, may be used to teach individuals how to build self confidence. Countless self-help guides have been written to encourage individuals to build self-confidence. Professionals offer seminars and retreats developed to assist people gain self confidence.
While each of these strategies can be successful, two other approaches that can be quickly learned and very helpful for the majority of persons who use them are confidence hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Experts who employ confidence hypnotherapy are usually able to coach individuals to acquire self confidence and drastically improve both their perspectives and their capacities to achieve in life.
Classic hypnotherapy (utilizing post-hypnotic suggestions) can be very useful. It is best with those who are suggestible and easily led. This technique often is not useful for persons who tend to be methodical or think critically.
For people described by the latter category, Ericksonian hypnotherapy and NLP approaches are much more successful. These approaches are effective for communicating with the unconscious mind, which is the center of our emotions. This occurs because they bypass the resistance that analytical people have to the more traditional suggestion type of hypnosis.
A tool used to teach this person to gain self confidence is called anchoring. Anchoring is a natural experience.
For example, if you encounter an old song, and experience feelings of deja vu, it's because your unconscious connected the emotions that you were having at one time, with the lyrics of the song was playing at the time. So now when you hear the music again, the subconscious triggers the memories related to it. So the song anchors those memories.
Through anchoring, persons are reminded of a time where they did experience the feelings of confidence. As they recall and relive those feelings, they are instructed to touch two fingers together.
The subconscious then relates the feelings of self-confidence with this physical action. If the patient says that he or she has no recollection of having self-confidence, they can design a fantasy in which they do see themselves exhibiting confidence, and then anchor that perception of confidence.
When the client has anchored the emotions of confidence, when they find themselves in situations that necessitate self-confidence, touching the fingers together triggers emotions of confidence that are useful in the present situation.
An alternative NLP technique called the "Flash" may be utilized to instantaneously substitute painful feelings, which are sometimes related to low self-confidence. With the Flash, the person uses the mental pictures that create a negative feeling, to trigger mental images to generate a positive feeling.
For instance, the client programs the subconscious to use the visual images that cause feelings of uncertainty, as triggers for visual cues that precipitate feelings of confidence. Mental pictures trigger emotional reactions.
Everyone has goals, and aspirations. Many persons learn to strive toward these to realize their dreams. Other people permit their lack of self-confidence to defeat them. Although NLP does not successfully treat everyone, the overwhelming majority of clients who have used this strategy describe great success in building self confidence. This therapy is usually more useful than alternative approaches for most people.
Summary: People who lack self-confidence usually have difficulty succeeding in the majority areas of their lives. Many components cause persons to acquire social phobias or the feeling of incompetence. Many therapies have been developed to assist persons to build self-confidence. NLP has often been reported to be very beneficial by a large percentage of individuals who have tried this strategy.
Alan B. Densky, CH is a certified hypnotist and NLP Practitioner. His site offers self hypnosis CDs for building confidence. His Self-confidence CDs were recently reviewed by Personal-Development info in England. Visit him for Free hypnosis & NLP newsletters and MP3s.
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